I am revisiting the discussion I'd started. Good to see people so many people agree in their own little ways with the essence of what I wanted to propose. None of us who have been following porn sites agree with it any more than we do drugs and violence. There are a few who justify porn, but most often these are people who are new to it and see it unidimensionally - a jack off experience. Some others say porn is not all that bad, but child porn is a no-no. Yet another group wants moderation.
Lets break outselves into the following groups:
1. Those (like me) who remember the pre-Internet age well, when porn was around but not half as freely. It was only for the connoisseur --if I may use that term. Back then, we all knew there was a porn empire, but it never solicited customers. Porn was something of a forbidden fruit, but the Internet made it quasi legitimate. Now, 13 years later, some of us are wondering what's wrong with us.
2. Those who have hazy memories of the pre-Internet age and even less of the porn that flourished then -- some people call it the "golden age of porn". These guys were won over by the empire (noble or evil according to perception) without much resistance. They perhaps saw porn as a natural thing at first. They perhaps made little niches in their minds for porn and never quite allowed it to subsume the rest of their minds.
3. The Internet generation. These guys were born in the latter half of the 1980s. To them, porn is as much a part of the Internet as Wikipedia. This group has had its sexual responses conditioned by porn.
Several questions trouble me: If porn was so non-objectionable, why are some pre-Internet age variables still constant? For example.
a) Pornstars are still not accepted in respectable cinema
b)The mainstreaming of porn is still a mirage
c) The morality of the porn flick, all the values (whatever!) they uphold, are still continued as farmyard -- even the most arden porn lover wouldn't accept it
d) The market is still small in comparison to mainstream cinema
A lot us, like myself, don't enjoy porn anymore. We have come to regard our endless attraction for porn as some kind of behavorial disorder. I myself feel I'm having an out-of-body experience every time I watch porn. Its as if I am critically viewing myself ogle at a porn site.
I think I need help. And I am sure there are people out there who need likewise. Let's keep this thread alive so we can talk. Now, Freeones is serving an altogether different purpose for me.