People change when they grow up sometimes for the better, sometimes for the worse. I had a similar situation with a kid who was my best friend since 1st grade. In 10th grade we had a bit of a fight just before he moved away. He only moved about an hour out of town, but because he was now attending a different school and we'd been fighting, we didn't speak for a year or so. When we finally re-connected, he'd changed quite a bit. A lot more drinking and hanging out with morons. He's still pretty cool and a somewhat close friend, but its a lot different now when I see him.
In your situation, I'd either try to let him know that he's gotta cut the shit or just cut him loose altogether. You can't keep people from changing, as much as you'd like to, but perhaps you can let him know you think he's changing for the worse.
That's good advice, man. Whenever I try to talk to him about these issues, he'll say sorry and then usually turn around and pull that crap again in the next couple of days. I guess I just gotta accept who he is.
for what it's worth i'm not close to hardly any of my high school friends anymore. i'm still friends to an extent with most of them. civil at least but so much has changed with most of us that we hardly even know each other and it's just an awkward situation when we run into each other. that's how it goes though. i found that of the people i went to school with that i ever spend much time with are people i didn't really know then ironically.
I know what you mean. Every now and then I'll run into one of my high school friends and even though it's only been 3 years, it already feels awkward a lot of the time. I just usually don't have much to say.
It's time to cut him loose. He started flaking out on you after you left high school. He might have been the same way with his "cooler" friends and they got rid of him. Therefore returning to "Ol' Reliable" you. For what it's worth, you are not the first person to come to this crossroad nor will you be the last.
I feel like that could be exactly right. I don't know what happened between him and those cool kids, but he hardly ever parties with them anymore. I have a feeling if he still was, he wouldn't be hanging out with me again as much.
Dude calls me up and says that he is being tossed out of his place by the end of the day. Seems that the house-mates he was paying rent to never paid the landlord. We grab his stuff and I move him in with me. I tell him no rent. Save your money to get another place. Always food in the fridge. If you need cash then I will keep a tab and it is a loan. This is a 1 BR apartment. I work overnight and he works during the day. I would come home from work and wait for him to get himself up and out the door to get my bed back. Not a big deal, just a little inconvenient. I'm helping a guy out.
This started in early June. Mid August he says it may be another month or so till he finds a place that's right. I tell him,"Dude, It's time to go. 2 weeks notice." I help him move into his new place. Now over the course of time I would pick up some eggs or soda or little shit for him when I went to the store. I'm not going to tab this little shit. The tab ends up to be a VERY rounded down $65. He says he will have it for me next week. Cool.
I go to his place to pick up my cash and he says that something happened to his check and he will have it for me next week. I'm heading down to AC and that money would have been nice to have. I don't think that I should have to chase my own money. I tell him to stop by and drop it off. 3 months later he knocks at my door looking to charge his cell phone. I ask if he has my $65 and he says no. I tell him to come back and charge his phone when he has my 65 bucks. That was a year and a half ago. Amazing how some people have such short memories.
Bob.
Good story. I can't blame you for handling things that way, though it likely pissed the other guy off big time. :1orglaugh
I'll put it like this. I'm 47...my best friend now, is the same best friend I had in high school. We have in the past, not talked for extended periods of time, but for no reason, and picked right up where we left off. If I needed this guy to bail me out at 3 in the morning, or back me up for ANY reason, he would be there RIGHT NOW.
Do you see this guy being there ANY TIME, for ANY REASON? If not, he's not your best friend, and if he only hangs out with you because of things you provide....you're basically his sugar daddy.
Remember, the difference between a friend, and a best friend...........A friend will help you move, a best friend will help you move a body.
He always says he's there for me when I need him, but I don't know.
I have dropped 'friends' like this guy over the years. Too many people who just want to take advantage of people. I am always eager to lend a hend, and, well, I learnt how to proffesionally paint and so on, and I always help when people move to a new appertment, funny enough, many times when I move, they can't make it etc.
Just stop calling them and thell them straight out: Don't call me again.
I guess they can't try to follow in your footsteps. They can only rely on you for everything.
I had a friend like that once. The creepy texting part of it was why I
stopped being friends with the asshole. I found out a few years later
that he was trying to make people think we were gay. I sure found
out who my real friends were back then. Good luck Bro, and watch out
for the back door faggotry.
LOL! :1orglaugh I'll try my best...