So! Girls are generally asked these questions in regards to their sexual preferences, so I thought I'd ask the men now
Well, I don't think I truly qualify as "men" but I'll answer anyway. In fact, I'll give you the TMI / TL;DR version, as an alternative to the "quick-fire" responses you're sure to get.
1. What is your favourite position?
Without question,
girl on top/cowgirl. I like being able to maintain eye contact and also get a good eyeful of boobs and access with hands/mouth, and also be able to reach around and feel/squeeze her bottom and/or slip a finger in her bum if she likes that too. It's the best position for easy access to everything I like. Most importantly, I have a massive submissive streak and I love the feeling that
she is in control of how hard/fast/deep it is, and nothing gets my rocks off like not being in control of my own orgasm. I've never blown harder than when the lady gets to choose to ride my cock non-stop until I physically can't prevent myself from popping. The first time I got to have sex with the girl on top is a memory so strong it makes me squirm in my seat to not get hard just thinking about it.
2. What are your top 3 turn ons?
These are probably a bit more "out there" than some answers you'll get which may be about physical traits/attire etc :
3. Power of suggestion.
For me, the build and anticipation of sex is very important and if the excitement level is high in advance of the actual physicality, it's usually a lot better. So the little hints that a screw is on the cards, or the subtle little signs that it definitely
is on the horizon, are sure-fire ways of getting my blood pumping, especially if they're quite a while before we'll get chance to act on it so the anticipation builds. Winks, licking or biting of lips etc.... those little signs that something's going to happen. Honestly, laying a bit of groundwork can go much further for pushing my buttons than anything you might spring on me there and then. I once had a text from an ex a good hour before she was finishing work, when we had a pre-arranged dinner date, where she wrote "I can't wait for you to whisk me away and eat.... a meal.
X" So, for the next hour and then over the taxi to town, wine and three courses, all I was thinking about was her sweet little pussy waiting for me. That power of suggestion and anticipation building was crucial to creating what ended up a very... satisfying evening for both parties.
2. Sexually confident girls / girl initiating sex.
Very little turns me on more than sexually confident women, by which I mean girls that aren't scared to ask for what they want in bed, or give direction. I get off on giving the girl pleasure so it means a lot to me if she is prepared to say "harder" "faster" "up a bit" etc so that it's even better for her. The hottest one off sex I ever had was with an older woman who told me exactly what to do to get her off, which blew my mind, and in turn resulted in her reciprocating and giving me one of the best orgasms I'd ever had with her considerable skill. So girls that are happy to give the orders get a big plus from me. If she initiates the sex, even better. I think as a general rule the average guy will want to have sex more often than the average girl and in a lot of relationships the guy does most of the initiating, and that isn't always bad, but sometimes when you feel you're always doing the asking, you can worry that there might be a bit of coercion going on (even if you aren't trying to) and that makes you feel like a bad guy, so if the girl is happy to take the lead and initiate the sex, it's a huge turn on. I had a girlfriend many years ago that was a virgin before we started going out so maybe she wasn't confident in lots of ways due to her inexperience, but I remember she would on occasion wake me up in the middle of the night with the simple instruction "Eat me" which was amazing. Another ex once completely interrupted a conversation I was having about food with "Do you not want to have sex then?" and it was on. I mean, I'm thrilled with any sex, but sex where I haven't initiated but had the girl essentially tell me "come get it" is sensational. Simple, but true.
1. Girls that have no idea they're sexy.
When there's a girl that I want, the thing that makes me want her most is when she has no idea she's sexy. It's kind of hard to describe, but I hope some guys know what I'm saying. When the girl is just getting on with something mundane, talking about something perfectly normal, not especially dressed up, and just completely oblivious to the fact that they're driving me crazy. One of my exes was not used to being thought of as sexy, and it showed, which made me want her so much more. Just sat at a desk, for instance, staring intently at the paper over the top of her glasses, sketching away and wittering on about the finer details of the art which went straight over my head, I'd catch myself saying "You're so fucking hot, you have no idea, do you?" And she'd stop what she was doing, and sometimes say "Shut up, I'm trying to concentrate." Or sometimes she wouldn't, and we'd go to the bedroom. I'm probably not explaining myself too well, and I need to underscore that
I do need to already want the girl for this effect to work, but when it works, it's the best. Any girl that I want, if they can act like they have no idea they're hot, they will drive me crazy. Then they want to hit me with some subtle hint that we might fuck (see 3), then eventually initiate (see 2) and.... yeah, stick a fork in me, I'm done.
3. What are your top 4 turn offs?
Let's avoid all the obvious stuff again, poor hygiene, bits being too hairy etc. These are my "passion killers" :
4. Girl too passive.
This goes back to the coercion in my point on "girl initiates" - if it feels too much like the girl isn't into it, and that's just "letting me" fuck her as opposed to being a truly active participant, then things start to feel a bit wrong, and I'm going to go limp. Don't get me wrong, there is a difference between
passive and submissive. My first girlfriend loved being tied up and handcuffed so she physically couldn't respond as much as if unrestrained, but she was still a very active participant through body language and talking to me throughout me doing whatever I wanted to her prone body. My longest term ex was also very submissive and preferred missionary and being completely controlled and dominated, but she was still very active and would wrap her legs around me tight as she urged me to smash her as hard, fast and deep as I could, digging her nails hard into my back, reaching down to stroke my balls when she wanted me to cum inside her and so on. So even though she preferred it laying flat on her back, she was never the "lie back and think of England" type. But yeah.... I haven't had too many "just letting me fuck them" experiences, but they were dreadful.
3. Girl not sexually confident / never initiates.
This isn't too far from the above and ties back into my turn-ons... in simple terms, I don't want a girl that just lies there or lets me do what I want when I
could be doing it better and more in tune with how she likes it. And I don't like to
always have to initiate, because it feels too much like she's letting me do it to keep me happy and not because she
wants to. I really don't care for shagging someone that doesn't really want to. I had one relationship fail when she started seeing me as more of a friend than a lover, and there was a little while where she stopped initiating at all, and it felt awkward for me trying to test the waters to see if she was in the mood. Eventually I stopped trying because I felt like it might have edged towards coercion, and the knockbacks started to hurt too much to try. Not long after, I realized we had to break up. It hurt, but I knew there was something wrong underneath which she just didn't want to talk to me about. So yeah... you could be really hot, but if you're not at least
occasionally being the one to initiate the sex, or during the act being interested enough to play an active role in making sure I'm giving YOU the best time I could be... then we shouldn't be doing it.
2. Girls that know they're hot and act like it.
Fairly obvious, the inverse of my #1 turn on. Some girls that
are hot, know it and truly play up to it. Some girls genuinely seem to act like I should be offering to crawl through a minefield on my hands and knees just for the privilege of thirty seconds wanking in their shadow, and I don't go for it. I don't do dancefloors very often, but I've actually experienced turning my head and ending up looking at a girl by pure coincidence and her raising a hand and making the "pieface" gesture and turning her back on me, as if to declare "Not interested" even though I'd had about half a second even knowing they were there. "You arrogant cunt" is the feeling that goes through me... and half the time, they aren't even that fit anyway. There are a half-dozen other variants of girls abusing the fact they are physically attractive, but I don't want to make this post (more) boring. There's nothing wrong with being confident, dressing provocatively, throwing some shapes etc... but sometimes, you can just tell a girl
thinks every guy in the room wants to fuck her, and it translates into her seeming less attractive to me. I've probably not explained it too well.
1. Garish, orange fake tan.
OK, so this is where I sound super-shallow, but... if you look like you've slapped your fake tan on with a trowel, and that
looking like you have a tan all the time is more important than going on holidays and getting a real one, well, with the obvious exceptions of if you NEED to be perma-tanned for your job, if you've fake-tanned yourself to tangerine-levels, in my experience, that usually translates to you being not the kind of girl I go for. So it's transformed into me not wanting to fuck any girl with a load of fake tan on.
4. What is the first thing you notice about a girl?
Eyes, smile. I mean sure, I like tits and legs and bums too, but it's the general "radiance" of a girl that gets me first. If I get lost in your eyes or your smile makes me dizzy, you've got me from the start. I mean, there is a vibrancy and
joie de vivre about a girl's behaviour and conversations, and having a sense of humour similar to my own, which are the
biggest factors to me finding a woman sexually attractive, but chronologically speaking, I get to notice her eyes and/or smile first.
5. What is your favourite pickup line?
I don't really have one. I've never been a "pickup" type. Every girl I've ever gotten anywhere with, I've needed it spelling out. I have no confidence and zero self-awareness for when a woman is interested. I'd never dream of using a pickup line, because sub-consciously I've already decided it's not going to work.
6. Why and how did you get into porn? (I guess, why did you start watching and when was the first time?)
Hmmm.... when I was very young, in fact before I had started masturbating
to anything, I was round two older friends house when they showed me porn for the first time. Through the wonder of the Internet I now know it was the final scene of "Rich Bitch" with Ali Moore and Susan Hart. I probably didn't know what to think at the time. The next time I saw porn was very much by choice, I would have been 14-15 and by that point furiously knocking one out whenever I had chance to anything you could imagine - nude scenes in proper films, girls on Gladiators, Baywatch or the wrestling, the lingerie sections of catalogues, topless photos retained from the newspaper, the occasional porn mag bought from other lads at school - when one of the boys at school made it known he had a porn video. I obtained a borrow of it and copied it. It was actually a tape of 3 hours of programming from a channel called Eurotica (I think) which had two features and a solo masturbation scene. I wish I could remember what one of the features was called because there was at least one scene with one actress that slayed me, but I remember very well that the other feature was "Legend 3" with Sandra Scream, Vicky Vickers and best of all... Ashlyn Gere.
I didn't become properly "into porn" until my household got the Internet (this was the 90s, I should stress) and I by and large used the net to initially just download lots of photographs of nude celebrities, but soon I discovered the real porn and then became aware of the concept of "pornstar." I don't know if they were in the first porn I watched via the Internet, but the first "name" stars I remember getting into were Jenna Jameson and Nikki Tyler, and not long after, Tera Patrick and Chasey Lain. There was no turning back then.
I've never really thought about the "why" I got into porn. I just never evolved past that point of loving playing with my own dick.
Definitely shared too much there, but whatever.
